Let's Get Uncomfortable

Let's Get Uncomfortable

What makes you uncomfortable?  What is your reaction when you feel uncomfortable?  Do you identify this discomfort as stress?  What if instead of stress, you saw this discomfort as an opportunity?  The problem that most encounter is that this our predisposition to follow our patterns is both easier and less stressful, but it leaves no room for growth and results in stagnation.  This may be in your career or personal relationships.  The stress of personal relationship is real and take work, and if you see a similar outcome to your relationships, it is not a coincidence.  If you jump from job to job and can’t find stability, it is not a coincidence.  As you have most likely read in almost every self-growth article, our relationship patterns stem from our relationships with our parents.  Once those are imprinted in our brains from a very young age when we are developing it becomes the blueprint that will determine every relationship for the rest of our lives.  Most relationships begin full of roses and actually eliminate stress with releases of dopamine and seratonin, but as those chemicals run their course and your brain finds balance again, your feet touch back to earth, the dust settles, and you actually get to know the person.  This is where discomfort and the stress associated with the discomfort rears its ugly head.  Here we go again.  We know what to do.  Take the similar old path of blowing up the relationship, sticking around in the relationship because you don’t want to be lonely, changing who you are to make the relationship work, and so on and so on.  So, what if you don’t react?  Take a second, and breathe, and step back.  Have you seen this situation before, how was it handled, and was the outcome a success?  You have to ask yourself these questions, and it’s easy to say, “well, yes but it wasn’t my fault and…” followed by fifty reasons why it wasn’t your fault.  Now, maybe it wasn’t your fault, maybe the fault lies in getting involved with the wrong people, but regardless, instead of taking the same road toward the same results, embrace the discomfort of the situation.  Don’t confuse this feeling with stress, look at is as an opportunity.  An opportunity to be introspective and an opportunity to grow.  If your boss gets mad at you and you want to quit because he sucks, but then you find yourself frantically searching for a job, maybe instead you just say ok, and you don’t take it personally because you have no idea about his or her patterns.  You know what, their patterns have nothing to do with you and that boss probably has a high turnover of employees that never want to work with them.  I had a boss once that would me all of his employees should be thankful that they have a job, but he was never thankful to have such great employees, and you know what, they continually left and he was left…clueless.  The point is to start looking at discomfort as an opportunity, and an opportunity that could result in something truly better on the other side.  This takes courage and commitment because it can be incredibly easy to revert to our old patterns because we know where they will lead.  Choose to take the path of the unknown, because the unknown can be exciting, eye opening, breathe taking, and enlightening.  Don’t run from the discomfort…dive in.